On-Stage Dopamine: Maisha Baada ya Applause

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Ni nini kinatokea baada ya lights kuzimwa, microphone kuwekwa chini, na crowd kuondoka?

Katika kipindi hiki cha Tikvah Podcast, tunazungumzia upande ambao mara nyingi hauonekani wa public praise—pressure ya ku-maintain image, kutafuta validation, na kutegemea applause ili kujisikia valuable.

Tunaangalia jinsi stage, social media, influence na public recognition vinaweza kuwa tools nzuri, lakini pia vinaweza kuanza kuchukua nafasi ya identity yetu.

Je, unaweza bado kujua wewe ni nani bila title, followers, applause au spotlight?

Kipindi hiki ni reminder kwamba identity yetu haipo kwenye performance, success au public image, bali ndani ya Kristo.

Your gift may put you on stage, but the stage should never define who you are.

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Habari, kaributena kone tikfa podcast. Mimi ni rafki ako na ngwiyako Kristoffa Lu Siga. Na kaributiena kune episodia saba yetikfa podcast. Na sante watu wotambo mekwa kitufatilia kwene episodizo pite episod sita'za tikfa podcast. Tuna kuskurisa na mungwa kuba riki, mnatutia muoy kwa kweri kwakutuskliza na kutfatilia tma kwa na episode mbizes opita mbazu twatu zituki zumzia AI, tli kuana uh inose tumwagilo, mbaye tu izumzia kusu eneola creativity and production. Kwenye gospuna um AI msa kama ni kiti takutusa idea amakitu mbakineda changamoto. So we discuss that makini pia tulikwana uhastor defineas regasila mbeni assistant pastor wakanisa la calvara samersu ofga chyuchamanabin. Then also tuli kwanaye uhtukija ni li vitu vingi hasat nafasia ya yea AI kwuni ma kubiri kune mafundisho, na nam namba kanisa conduct their services and worship sessions. And we had a very wonderful uh moment. Na sandu kwa kweli kuwa tuamba o mi kuwa waki. Wakutuskiliza, nakutufatilia mna tutiyamwa. So kwana mo haja uhajekutu haja wana patashida kutkia, amakutufatilia, channel yetu ya tikva podcast, hipo Spotify, nakune online digital platform zoto kendika tikfas podcast, una tu patan nakutuskiliza, na knipio kenakunima Instagram bio, pale kutona, link kiye mene kwa tikva podcast, uki klikile pale, utenakune broadcast channel ye to wan bio, wemeza ku kuzi kute episod zotina ukanu na pasasuya kuzi skilisa. It's just an audio uh content. You don't have to sit down and and watch, you can just put on an earphone or headphones. Nwakatu natimbeya unena kazini, ama una rudiktuka kazini, how you're having your moments alone, put on the earphones and ukawanezo moment zakuskiliza. Mazumumzo nausiri naiman. So asanti sana kwa konela kutfotiliya na kuku skiliza. All right, so leo niko tukuna episode ya saba, ya tiki podcast. Na leo na diskia kuzumziya kitu mbacho. Nima waka kuzumumza hapu abaya kini kandika kuno krasa wangu Instagram, na niku husu, kitu kaitua moni meipa inaitwa on stage dopamine the highs and lows of public praise. Nikitua macho kinani husu binafsi, uh, kwaskeliango pia, ayapia on the public stage here and there, wakini pia hasa, kwaatu, wang wwakariba mbona faham kwakaribu hasa, gospel musicians, gospel uh singers, how nivituambavio. I think I can relate with na ni mona nitengese nafasi yaku zoums. Nikitu mba tu numakwane kikif kiriya, sana na ni kiki yong of course, kusuatu mbao, as I mentioned, my shayao yamikua yako public, wan onekana wakimba, wan onekana waki ubiri, wanukana wakitu wa speech, aw wakifanyo do mamba wi nafanyo wonekani, na wa pokeizu people's praises and applauses. Uz mzea wachani, wna z mzeye musicians, wanuze influencers, different public speakers, kwene kospo arena, business people, na ta wengi nabao, kasi zau zina wfana wa yulikani na wa wonekane wa toke, kweni screens na kwani big stages. Na, na fkili kuna opane moja mbo wa tuengi na uyu wa nbu wana wona, mutokya public, ambo tuna wona sana. Na kiti kuna upana mwengi nabao hatu zungwumzi sana. Kwasababu kuwa recognize ama kujulikana, niketu ki zuri, na ide feeling you kingia mahari, watuana ku youwa ukiena kwenye stage, watu wana kupigiye makofu, ki pana vile, ey fani fana makuya, npigeni makofi. It feels good, eh? Uki performafu watu wakashangilia for a good reason too. So, kasabu tu onekani, you're just doing your part, you're just doing your thing, you're ministering, you worship, you sing, you praise, or you you you preach. There is that good feeling that you have. Ambaya, uki wana fana ku skiliza no anaku zingatiya. It feels so good. Now, that's a very good thing. So then it comes that there is a problem with that. Kosababu, we all as a human being, tuna penda ku appreciated, na ku applauses, applause, ku nyuavile vitu mbabu, tumekwa tuna tuna vi fana. Tuna penda, kun nyu kumbakire kitu mbachya tuna kifani kine impact, na tuna pena kupata feedback yea, namnagani watu wana kipu kiya. Tunapena ku wana karama mazu mungwa mipewa, nam nagani mbavi na gusa watu nawutu ki wuna kutupa feedback, it makes us feel so good. Lakini natani, ku na kitu kingi naba tu watu kiangali. Na nipali mbapu recognition ina anza kuwa sehemia ku tamburushuetu. Yani tu na anza, kuji tambu wama kuji tambbusha kuningana na recognition nabo tuna ipata kutoka kuwa, tupali mbapu nafika mahali, ha wjiski vizuri tena mpaka watu waku wone awa anze ku kuapreciate. Hawjiskite na ni wamu winu, baka watu wwawa na kušangiriye na ksefi, ha ujiskiten nimtu hatamani, baka watu wakuimbe, ama waku taji kumbba wwe nimtu special sana. Na hapa nipokitu ambacho, mahali mbapu tunafika, and then public praise, inanza kuwa tari, kitu mbacho klikwani ki zuuri, ambatu kinyza ku saidia, na kika kufani miskev zurusan, kika kupereka na kukungyiza kunematatiz. Na hapa nipokitu mbacho. Na ambachu ndipumaali mbapole u natakatuzu mzi, natu wangali, wa sehem. Kade mbavu mungwatu yarya. Kuna sababu mba usteji n aweze kukupa kitu wambaco, ba shia kawaida, hai wezu kupa ki lasiku. Imajin, umetuko kungga mberia watu kama mi anemiatan. Miata mia, awu ish fitra tidi. Anyways, watwa kuto swa meka wana kuskiliza. Watu wa mesi mama wana kuskiliza. Uma bi wasi mama mis mama, waimbe mimba. Wame kupigiya makofi. Halafu badai wam kuja wwanakupo shuda kwamba. Ulicho kifanya ma urubu ifani ibe badidisha manchao. Wengi wanakudya sma e kenuta picture with you. Wenginu wanakudja wakumba mkumish, no manambako. Wokeye takako giena eggs, bada hapa. Wengine wanakutazama wana kutaja kumba. Youwa the wrong model. Halafu ukirodi nyunban sasa. Bade all the applauses, bade as session fruisha. Everything becomes normal. Askofufuangubisho, uh, maboya, wana, andamsemwake, akifika wanasemu ku yaba kandesan umayba yawe yawe ywe yawe yawe yawe. Afriku uudi nyubana semati back to your reality. Hakuna lights, ha kuna microphone, ha kuna masifatena all the applauses, ha kuna mutu wambaya anaku anaku introduce, hey the guy is back. Uwe baki kuwawe, na wale watu abuwa na kuwona kila siku. Na nafliuko badiya watu, hea transition, ku toka kune stage, kuye nyumbani, anbako, i don't get the same appreciation and applauses kama kune stage. Kinaweza kua kitu kigumu kama huyeweze kuki mene difizu. Kwa sababu, u kish kone mazingina mba kila mutuna ku shima anakuskiliza, anakuita kwa taito yako kubuwa, unaona anakwonyesha an anaona anauniesha kuta mini ni le karamayako, unaweza kwa anza ku expectam kuwana mataredio. Yaale mbona ya patakune stage. Kita maalu na poenda, yi wishye no expect people to treat you the same. Uneza kuti kutu na udi nyumani na unatemiye mkewaku, akwone vina mbava audiensi na kuona. Uenzo kutegemia tu twa kuna waanze ku na kama followaz waku nawuku appreciate mwanafu ku ku wona. Unezo kutegemiata marafki zaku pia na wanzu ku kuku shangiria, kama fans waku wanafu ku sangiria na kini. Nyumbani ina kweni tofa uut. Kusa watwa nyumbbani. Ha waju yo public version, iako. Wana duye full version, wwanajua strengtako, lakini pio wana dua weakness zaku. Wana duwa nawongeo kioko nestela kinipio wana diwa wunavyo kuwa mwunavonge ukiwa frustrating. Wana jiwa semonia ko mamubiliaku mazuri lakini pio wanajua tabia zako, eda zdendana wa zindana kitu mbacho, wunekio bir, wwanajua mafani kiweaku. Lakini pia, wwanajuwa se mambazu wewe, ha uje jipanga vizuri ama wane kani vizuri ama sio si vitu viakusifiwa. Na wakatimu ngida tunaweza kutafsiri, nam no navu tutit kawaida kwa se babu tukiruli kwa tuna koni wato kawa ide sio watu the stage, kama sam sort of disrespect. Na wananza kuwisi ama ku wwana kama ha wakwe shimu, awu ha wakwe, hawha wakutamini. Ila ukwi nkwamba, ha wajeku impressed ha watu, hawajeku impress na imediako, kama wali watu wanokwona nji. Na honestli nafkiri, ki lamtu wane taji, watu wai na io kunima shake, watu wambao, ha wakwoni tu kama we itsa gift from god. Watu wanoko wwana kamae normal, regular human being. Kwa sa babu, ukiz nguka na watu mba u kazia wniya tu, na ksifi eventuwa wunaweza kupoteza konnection, wmeza kupoteza, uhalisi ya wmaisha, yakwa kila siku. Na hapu n dipo, na tani ku na ishu kuba sa sina pwanza. Kwa sababu. U kisha zowe izo validation zawatu uko nje. Unaweza kuwanza kufuta uhalisiya wamaisha. Na validation izo zawatu abazu nazi pata ktu kanje. Kwa sabu. Sokitu wambachu ki na ishi. Ni chamuda, na wala, haki toshi ku kupa satisfaction, yawewe ni nani, ki warisiya. Kwasababu unaweza u kanyikuto napata plauze zama sifa leo. Alafu, kwasababu ye good feeling yamume pata. Kesho unaitadi ningine. Kwasababu public applauses, ni kama vile, nikama vile kilevi. Watu mbao wwame tu miye mi hadarati they always say, nutu waliye vuta unga leo. Mana zotu wana itafuta ire stim aw the feel alipata the first day. Kina tofanya andele kwit kuku kuvuta ire ia ali madawa niko sababu, ana anaitafuta ile feeling ali patha the first day ali pokule madawa ilipa certain sort of joy and good feeling. It's the same with public applauses. Once you have it, you you you desire for more. Uneza uka uka viral leo wiki afu wiki inja utena una you seek that viral or appreciation moment and ba ulipata last time. Uneza kajutalome platform kuba afukesho uka uka uka you wish to have a bigger one because you want more of what you felt. Na ika inderia, ika inderea, nekendele, and suddenly uka jikuta yenaha uko focus kwa nyye karama awile uluma bo mungu mekweka. Slowly, unaza kuikuto naza kutafuta, focus konye imej jiyaku. Kuna taka kwendere ku wenekana kama ni mutu successful, unataka watu wenele kufikiri kuwa mamboyaku ya kusiosawa, unataka watu wenele ku wona kuwa umefika na umefani kiwa sana, na hapu watu, naapu watu wananzo kufanyye vitu vingine kabisa. Nze ku tu ku kanza fani vitu vingine kabisa. Just so that you can maintain that image yambayo ume anza kweenga. Nona kuta mtu ananza kuishuma i samb, siu halisima shambo siya kwa ke. Anende sha lifestyli nbayo, hawezi tena kuya fode kwi manage, ananza kutumiya pesa nyingi, kwasababu ana unekana ku nekana kama viriya mifuba, awa me shuka, awa mefuria. Ana weka presha kubu wa sana kuni familiya kwa sa babu. Anataka wwene kumu wona kama ini pafet. Kama bavot onam tritiku lenje, anataka kuruni umbani, na watu, wam triti the same same. Atakki watu kusema, ata ataki watu wawone na ksema, labu wtazame na koksema. Maybi yamama bwake a indivizori. Kwa sababu anahisi ta swe ma imedi yambayo ame tengeneza. Hai rusu kune kana makwane sho waif. And that's very bad. Na nafkini do sababu nawiza kwana amone za kumu na mtu kwanje kwamakila kikiku kosawa. Akinindane naishma anxiety. Na this happening to many popular and famous people. Kosababu kunatufoutikuwa katia, akile watu wanacho kiyona kwanje. Na kira nbacho, wewe wuna kinywa kusuma. Na, the bigger gap and the heavier the pressure. Kadri watu anavuku wana na kadri wali si oma shako u leviu. If there is a big gap in between the pressure get worse. Kwasaba wukila siku unadeliburi dele vaji nambayo umejenga kwanje. Na eventually unananza kuishku wadilia perception zawatu wana vuk w wana, wata ku naje, wali ku naje, wane le ku ku naje. Na sikua adilia uhalisia wamaisha yako. Na pumtu napuanza kupo teza walisia wwake kwa sababu. Kunato fa uti, kati, yaku uwewe, naile ime jambona yu nyesha. Publik vajeniaku, ineiza kuwa very strong, very confident, very successful. Lakiniwe mwenyewe, maybe you have we are struggles. Datazo ni pali mbapo, una anza kuwa mini kwamba, ha wezi ku nyesha hiyo se muyako nyingine nyu the if fiye u kweri. Na mimi nafikiri. Freedom winanza pali mbapo una po kukubali kwamba. Hawitani kutibitisha, kitu mbaju, si kweri kwedi public. Ni kweri wuna hubiidi vizuri. Ni kweli we una uimba vizuri. Ni kweli we y do so well. Lakini, you have your struggles, you have your issues, you can allow people to see that ili we huru. Kwa sabu hawitaji kunyesha kwamba ume fika. Wakati bado, ha uye fika ukambako na dita yiku niesha watu. Hawitajiku nesha kwamba wwe you are very perfect wakati. We all have our weaknesses. Hawitaji kufanya watu wa mini kwamba, you have everything figured out. Kwasababu kwari kwamba, we all have our faults and our struggles. We have our shortcomings. We have our own failures. Everyone, each one of us, no one. Na wote tu namainua mba ubadu knaitaji mungwa tus idee naya fanyi kasi. Na jawabu laya mamoyotis no to hide them. The answer is to submit them to Christ. Paula Lisema kwektabucha wakurintu wapili, sura kwinambili, namserwa tisa, kwaba neema ya mungu inatosha, nanguvu ya mungu, inakamilika katika, uwe haifu. Na yuni sentese nyenguvi sana kwa sababu anamanisha, mungu hai taji verjni ya kwa mbao iku polishdi sala, inon nekana ikubora, mungwa naitaji wa true self, your true personel. Mungu anakutaka wewe halisi kamo ulivio, na wegnese zaku. Habanish kwa munguwa me marizana na wewe. Failure yaku, hai manish kwamba weha una tamani don'ha value. Kwa kuwa process amboy une endeleya katkama isha, kuna kwaanguka, na kuinuka, na katka kuwanguka, haimanish kwamba u meshin wwa. Sometimes you are just growing and accept it. Na, nafikitun etaji kuwa comfortable zaidi na hi gradual growth anbayo. Each one of us agoing through katkama isha na katka kbitu vide mbabio. Tuna vifani. Na hazu kizgia tia kwene dunia sasahivi mbayo. Kila kitu kina unekana vizuri kwa haraka. Yani, like, unona tumu tu anafua z myonimbiri, out of blue kwene social media. The word of social media. Unaona tu mungine gafla anakani sa kuba, unona tu mungine gafla anabiashara kubu, unona tu mungine gafla anasafiri here and there, uh, an enabacation. This is very thing watovikiana sasu anapenda kuenesha ni saferiri ni meta places and all of that. Lakini, wana kunyesha vile view to and you don't see the process behind everything that they are showing on their social media, on their platform, on their pages. Hawoni nizi na miyaka na siku ambazo asdurikani andbazo wa ja kwanyesha. You don't see their failures, you don't see their mistakes, they don't show you that. Hawoni moment sambazo, walitaka kuwacha kide mbachu wana kifani. Arafu nawe unanza kuji pima, na zile highlights and bazo wana kunyesha kwene their platforms. Naza kujipa pressure uone kane kwama na ume fika kama walivo fika. Wakati pengine mungu bado anakuanda na ku yenga and honestly, ha kuna shida yyote, unapokwa kwani process. Everyone calls the process. Hakuna shida, ku semma kwaba, I'm still going. Bado se defika mbaku nina end. Hakuna shida kuwa na audiense in dogo, it's okay. By the way, baby God has called you and sent you to minister and to save the small audience. Hakuna shida kuana business and bao bado inakuwa. Everything big starts somewhere small. Hakuna shida ku wana kalama mboyo. Bado still have to develop and grow. Sio la zima, kila kitu, ki we ki kuba sana, ili kiwe ki changuvu, amacho wali siama kiwe reyo. Na sometems nuna itajitu kubalo kuma mungwa anaweza kutupa karama. Kuba san. Lakini grufye tu bado, ine kuwa kindugu kindugu, kwa sababu, bado anataka kutu yenga karakta yetu. Because karakter needs time. Na nafkirindio point ambay watu wengi ambo waku public wane tadi kuiku mbuka. Si yo kila stage u nayupewa inama anisha tayaru mi fika. Sometimes stage inakuja kabla ya kyo karakter development. Sometimes influence yako ina eza kujikuta inakwa faster than your maturity. Na hapo dipuhatari napotoke. Kwa sababu. Ukiwa na influen skuwa, bilakwa na bilakwa grounded. Sifa zawatu, zina weze zaka kuba di lisha. Uneza kuanza kufikiri kuwa wwe nwa murim sana. Zidi yavire mbavu uliu. Na pou kunektabu chawarum suwa kum nabi msa tara na sema. Tu signifikiriye zydi li kunabotu pasa. We should not think too high of ourselves. Like ini pia alisema kuwa, we have to be sober in judgment. Na hina dariyya bautu powa nakizumuza, that we have to be sober in judgment. Ya mwim sana kwa sababu. Unyye nyye kev ama humility. Se ku kujifanya kwamba hauna hauna karama, awhauna, give tembo mungwa meku me kupa. Sioko nifanya kwamba ha weza wenimdaif. Miku niifanya kwamba. Na wana sokunifanya kwamba wewe simtu uliye fani kiwa usio successful. Lakini unyye nye kev ama humility. Mikujiyona sawa sawa. To see yourself correctly. Unajua mungwa mekupa karama. Unajuwa naweza kufanyye bitu wizuri. Una jiwa kuwa watu anabari kiwa anakyu nachu kifanya. Lakini bado unajua youa sila human. Bado naju na itaji naema, bado najua unaweza kukuseya, bado najuwa una itaji kusa hihishua, bado najua kama mungu anaweza ku tumiya wa twengine pia inye absen. Na hion yo propa balance that you need. Na, unawezo kapuke shima, unajuwa, bila witho demanding it. Uneza kusimama kwenye steji, bila kuifanya steji kuwa uta mbuli sho waku ama yuwa identity. Unaweza kuwa ma arufu na fema, sbilakwa minu kwamba, hio, uma rufu ame yu fem, ndu ine u kupatamani aw value. And honestly, nafkiri uwendi uhuru wa u kweli. Ni wezu wa kusi mama belea watu wengi leo la kini kesho ukiwa pekiaku bado uko okei. Kuwa na wezu wa kuwa twa bila invitation, na bado uspoteze sense of your worth. Kuwa na ability, yakwa kwene, sezo naba watu wana kutambua, na sio naba watu, awakutambui lakini wewe bado unanyuwa tamaniyaku na wewe ni nani katika krisu nani katkamungu. Because the truth is popularity e seza no. Leo watwa nezu kwa nakuzugumza, kila kit kuswewe. Kesha wa kuzumbumze ten. Leo nawzu kwa na trending, and tomorrow anu trendim tu mwengime. Leo, watwane sko wana itaji kuwane u kara mayako na udumayako. Ba kiti keshu mazingina me badilika, they don't need any more. Na identityaku ikwe me jingo kwenye haio uta kuan stable. You will shek. Kosababu ma ishayaku, yamikuwa control na reactions, na plauses, da word. Na na dani kuna kitu kingine abacho. Nchamuimzai. Kosabu. Sometimes kuloa ywe expected nzetu kwa watu wakaribu. Kosababu familia yako see yo your audience. What you see yourself, how how people applause you kwene stage malipako pa ku ima malipako pakubiri. It is not the same way your family and your People see you. Your wife is not your fan. Your husband is not your follower. Your children is not your audience. Even your friends. But afkizaku wakaribu is not your fan club. Naha wanna have an obligation scare very special all the time. Because sometimes wanaomiya, takawatu wakaribu, wunaomiya kwaka watu wakaribu na wanze ku act. I know you know these people who are close to you. Now, wanze ku act, kama watu wanjamba wa kuvizuri. Akinu watu wa karibu, kaziyao, siku linda ywa ego. Sometimes watu waku akaribu dia watu mbawa wanatakiwa kukurisha chini, and to humble you, wakumbuju kwamba, we badonim to tru. She's just a human being. Na wanaweza kuwa, na watuwa kumi wa na kupenda kwakirau na fana nakini, watu wa tanu wa na kudiwa, kwakira uricho nacho, bando they don't give you the same applaus as a thousand people who don't really know you. Ha watuatanu, they are the most important people. Kwasababu. Wakati yo crowd ime on doka, the watu wana baki nawewe. Wakati don't have stage, which is very temporary. Jewatu andbawa wana kwana ki rasik. Wakati public ime diako ime anguka. Waundi wana jua, the real person of foo you are. Na pengine tuna itaji tu wa value, tuapetamani zedi ya wat wasababu. Fans wanakupenda kwasababu ye gift yako. And we call them family most of the time. Literally, they are not. Your true family are your your your home family and your people, your close people who knows you, who know you beyond your performers. You get it? Get that in your mind. The real family, I see most of the time, Nakuta, most famous people. Hey fam, hey fam, yes, they are fam. It's okay to call them fam because it makes them feel good. But they are not a real family. Your family are the ones who, when the lights are off, unauri nao nyumban. That is your true family. Na po dipo mwisho wajote unata kiwa u yulize swarira isisana. Mimi ni nani wakate hakunaneni angale. Mimi ni nani without a microphone. Mimi ni nani without a title. Mimi nani without applause. Mimi ni nani without social media. Mimi ni nani. Kama kesho hakuna neni aleika. Mimi ni nani. Kama mafani kyo yangu au my success. Yamepuwa. Can I still be okay? Can I still serve? Can I still love God? Can I still live with purpose? Nakama Jibulango niatemiya stage. Then maybe stage bigger than it was supposed to be. Kosababu stage the same one by gifty ako na onekana. Lakin stage is not you. Si we your performance is not your identity. Nahi no pointyango. Enjoy recognition. But be careful for opportunities. Use your gifts, accept honor, accept praise when people genuinely appreciate you. Lakini usweke uzito wwai de titiyaku kunyekitu wambacho. Kina weza kuondoka. Kesho. Kwa sababu musho siku. Light zita zimwa, crowd itoka, people go home, na utabaki, uwe, na mungu, na wali mba wana kujuwa kweli. So maybe the goal is not kua mtu wambai aweza kwish bilastege. Maybe the goal is kuamtuambayo unaweza kutu miya steji vizuri. Ba kinu maweza kwish bilas stage. Mtuambaya unaweza kupaki applauses, bilaku addicted na applause, mtuamba wweza kuwa celebrated, bilakwa anza kuish kwa dilia celebration, mtu wambia una kubari kwaamba, you have weakness, you have failures. Na una area zambazo bado na etajiku kuwa na kureki bishua to develop your character. Na badaia kujinga image, yakitu wambaco, hakipo, una chiku kuwa, kila kitu, na kuki weka, beliya kristu kwasababu. His grace is sufficient. Hawita jiku perfect. Hawitajiku nikana kamo mesha fika. You don't have to prove everything to everyone. Grow. Be faithful. Accept the process. Na mungu akiku pa stage. Use it. Like in isikwa mbao, crowd itanya manza. Make sure bado kunajua we wininani. Hide your identity in Christ. Don't feel so bad. Don't feel too bad. Don't feel denied. Amen.